ugh, this sounds so frustrating, I’m sorry you’re going thru that. I’ve been in relationships like this before where I felt like a backup plan, only there when it was convenient for them. It was exhausting. 😔 I think it might help to really have an open conversation with her, but if she doesn’t show any effort to change… that says a lot. A relationship should be equal, ya know? You deserve to feel supported too.